This great question
lies at the heart of the process of transmutation

It is one we all
so need to understand

You ask
do I turn my attention away from the wound
and feed only what lifts me up
or do I allow the expression
of the hurt little one within
and respect her voice of pain
The answer is yes to both
for one does not defy the other
in any way

When darkness comes
it can be as powerful
as a great wind
that blows out every candle
snuffs every flame
In the resulting absence of light
it seems that we are without choice
and made blind
to any avenue of relief
The truth is
there is always choice
and aspects of this permission
live in the mind
while other facets
live deep within the body
and express beyond the conscious voice

So while the mind may indeed heal the body
in its powers of creation
we must be able to access thought in order to take hold of such power
and to do this
we may first have to release what is held in the physical form
overwhelming our senses
so that the mind may then find its way

This unfurling of energy can happen
without our awareness
but as we learn to pay attention
we discover ways
to drop deeply into an experience of our world
and learn to recognize this process
for what it is
until we know it
can feel it coming
just as a woman realizes when labour has begun
or a tumescent lover senses
the impending explosion
of sexual pleasure and release

Each soul in body
holds her own vibration
and his own level of awareness of this
To very many
these principles are so unconscious
it is like every day walking on silk and velvet
wearing heavy rubber boots

Others have been activated
and a detoxification has begun
the cleansing of many lives
and many wounds
experiencing stages of purification
that are as intense as the original wounding
triggering despair
and a crisis of faith

And then there are those
who have already walked these valleys of fire
discovering their own immortality
watching as pain becomes beautiful in its purity
and moments of saturated bliss are found
in a speck of floating dust

It is this place
where the practice of discernment
between release and ascension is found
and the irony is
that the deeper the surrender to the pain
the greater the thrust toward the light
At the same time
the more willing the detachment from the story of the pain
the less its teeth will bite

The simplest direction
toward this sensual dance
is to view every sensation and emotion
without judgement
and with love
This perspective
will allow you to quickly sense
how to proceed
for it wipes away the tarnished clouds
of the self critical seeker
who fears to love
what may seem unloving within
Any judgement of this kind
confuses the mind’s ability
to facilitate release

If you Love your suffering when it rises
a broad, humble love without attachment
devoid of the victim’s lament
the pain itself will speak to you
through your physical self
and above all your heart
giving you a direction to take
For the heart is the great mediator
between mind and body
the place where all truth lives
and may be experienced
as the Kokoro of life
When the heart is open 
if the pain is meant to intensify
and flow free
like the rush of a river through
a broken dam
then it will do so
and you will witness this
as grace
But if the expression of the wound
is simply a memory
an empty shadow that flickers
out of habit
then it will fall away easily
as you lift yourself up
into the Now
knowing this old wound
will never happen again

These answers may be found
both in the silence of divine listening
such as meditation
and also in the steps you walk each day
for the body holds its own wisdom
and will act
will sing its own song
even if the heart is not heard
So if you stumble
if you fall deep
love even this moment
for every impulse of self love
shakes loose attachment
and carries you further
upon the lush winds of change

Turn your attention always
and above all
to loving your experiences utterly without judgement
every single breath
and every waking dream
From this state of surrender
you will know
if it is a time to soften into shadow
or rise up into light
for each direction will take you to the other
and back again
until you one day stand tall as the noonday sun
and no earthly thing
will cast darkness
upon your way

©Cynthia Long, 2013



Every faith
seeks to end human pain
for are we not born
to rise up and live in joy?

But what if
we were to love our pain 
just as it speaks
so truly 
that it no longer hurts
and we are guided to a heaven
upon this Earth

The work of freeing ourselves from toxic patterning is the yoga of a spiritual path. Just as physical yoga stretches a contracted muscle, releasing blocked energy and opening our hearts, so must we respond to the contractions of our emotional pain by expanding energetically and stretching through the discomfort. 

It is our fear that hurts, not so much the wound itself, and so our surrender to trust can and does create miracles.  Through the process of cellular level healing we are guided both to know our pain deeply and to let it go completely. Time is Now. 

Please join me:
Naming Your Story Intensive June/ 2013
416 898-6191

Honouring the Masculine – for Men Only

 That’s right. Men need unconditional love too. In fact, given what most men have been through in one lifetime alone, not to mention their cellular and genetic history, they may need it even more than women. But where do they find it? How do they achieve it? And how does softening into the receiving of love affect a man’s masculine power?

When fundamental needs go unmet from birth or in early childhood, as they so often do, our first lesson is that we are unworthy of unconditional love, and we separate from our divine inner nature and focus upon survival, control, and finding a way to medicate our pain. This is particularly true in cultures where little boys are expected to be tough, strong and unfeeling, or to meet the expectations of a demanding father or needy mother, which is the experience of many little boys in most countries on our planet today. 

For men, it is through an awakening to the nature of this wound that their authentic strength is found, allowing them to stand up in true masculine power to meet the demands of daily challenges, and fully claim the attention of the women in their lives.

There are two powerful aspects that can support men upon this journey.  One is a connection in brotherhood with other men. Men’s groups are springing up locally and on a large scale, offering opportunities for men to connect with other men in a rediscovery of what it means to be masculine in today’s world.  There is no substitute for what men can give to one another in this way.

The second element is sourced from the feminine. The vast majority of men are searching helplessly through their intimate relationships to heal and fulfill what has gone missing for them their whole lives. Some do the dance of avoiding real intimacy and feeding off sex instead, others bounce through sequential torturous relationships, and some shut down their hearts and focus on work or other addictions, or settle into a low frequency relationship of compromise.  Gay men have their own challenges in finding love within a dynamic of cultural censure and exclusion. And romantic relationships are not the only life experience affected by pervasive masculine wounding. Generations of men continue to perpetuate pain from father to son, and their daughters too. Despite feminism, despite a powerfully rising global consciousness, we are still seeking a solution to the masculine rage which feeds the ethic of war that overshadows our planet.  

Do men need and deserve special care, profound healing and a new path to unconditional self love? You bet your biceps they do.

If you are a man who has experienced a lack of feminine love or masculine approval, if you are intrigued by a completely new approach to empowerment, if you are looking for a new balance between your outer masculine authority and inner feminine creativity, then I welcome you to explore these concepts in the presence of a non-sexualized, healing, feminine counselor and guide.  If you are a woman who loves such a man, please share this invitation. 


On the eve of the full moon, Friday, May 24th, I welcome you to a Full Moon gathering for men only, prior to my women only gathering on Saturday, May 25th. Through stories, teachings, music, meditation and energy work I will offer a space for us to explore together the old habits of protection and resistance that may stand in the way of a free, pure masculine energy, and share insights into the feminine responses of the women in your life. 

$30 (or pwyc)
37 Scarborough Road, just north of Queen Street East, Toronto, Ontario.
7 – 10 PM


Until May 24th, I am offering a 2 for 1 introductory special for men; two one hour personal sessions for $100, for yourself or to share with a friend. These sessions offer a combination of reflection, listening, energy work, and received guidance to support you in your transformation. Specific concerns may be addressed such as relationship, health or spiritual issues.

Absolute Love for men only. Since the days of Delphi, warriors have been seeking guidance and a safe place to heal in the presence of feminine spiritual energy. You deserve nothing less. Absolutely.

For more information  please write or call Cynthia at 416 898-6191.